I am a doctor or nurse

How young carers can help

They provide a source of information.

'My patient could not provide a complete account of her condition. She suffered from a mental illness. Thanks to her son I was able to figure out the best treatment for her.'

They support ongoing treatment.

'My patient needed to take medication twice a day. He also had to visit me weekly. But he had memory problems. His daughter made sure he didn't miss a tablet and came to see me.'

They provide emotional support.

'I had a patient who wouldn't speak without her son in the room. Her son told me it was because she becomes distressed around strangers. His presence alone allowed me to treat my patient.'

How to work with a young carer

Always listen to them.

‘They could be putting my mum's life at risk by not listening to me. I've been looking after her. I know everything about her.'

And explain the patient's treatment plan to them.

'I broke down what to do and what to expect. I even explained some medical terms. My patient felt better knowing their daughter understood it all. Her daughter also seemed much more relaxed.' 

Try to understand how they may feel.

'We only go to hospital when things go bad. It always stresses me out. I can't sleep because I don't stop worrying. Then everything starts to drain me. I start acting angry. I don't mean to.'

Make some allowances for stress.

'I asked her son if he wanted to take a moment to pause before we continued talking. At first he got angry but then he did take a break. We both felt better after that break.'

Ask for advice.

'I never met a young carer before. I reached out to a doctor on the children's ward. He told me about his experience and connected me to the local young carer support service. They really helped.'

Helpful resources

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Supporting young carers and their families